Other people’s words about … life after therapy
It’s an odd sensation to be done with therapy, to believe it is no longer available to me as a recourse. I watch as people around me flow in and out of therapy, and as therapy flows in and out of them. I feel a familiar sense of alienation, and sometimes I’m also troubled by an obscure sense of uncleanliness, as if my resolution to abjure therapy were a perverse abstention from universally accepted hygienic practices — as if I’d taken a vow never to wash again. Therapy is an ablution, a Ganges in which everyone bathes.
From ‘Mockingbird Years’
by Emily Fox Gordon
There are two things I experimented with to excess in the years before I turned forty: restricting my eating and, like Emily Fox Gordon, consulting therapists.
So many different eating plans.
So many damn therapists!
I thought they would make me a better, healthier, happier person, but I was wrong on both counts.
Things that make me happy that don’t involve therapy or dieting (1):
A bunch of flowers planted in the dune, which I happened upon on a recent run
But in my early forties I came to a turning point, and now, nearing fifty, I know there’s no turning back. I am done with diets and therapists forever.
So here is my promise, to myself and to you: I will grow old therapy-free, no matter how unenlightened that may leave me.
And I will grow old (joyfully, unrepentantly) eating cake!
Things that make me happy that don’t involve therapy or dieting (2):
Views like this on my walk to work in the morning
Lately I’ve been reading about …
- … the pros and cons of the side hustle (yes, more on the gig economy!)
- … why you should switch off your smartphone!
2 thoughts on “Unrepentant”
Great quote, Rebecca. It is all about finding your personal balance, isn’t it? Becoming comfortable in your own skin and trusting you are guided by your instincts to walk through life amidst its ups and downs. No one can advise you like your own ‘inner knower.’
Enjoy the rest of your weekend!
Thanks Eliza. You too! 🙂